I read an interesting article on whining. And how to stop whining. To start living the life you want to live. Indeed. We are so privileged in many ways. I wish more people in this world had the chance to not only think about their hopes and dreams, but work towards achieving them.
Larry Winget has published a book called Shut Up, Stop Whining & Get a Life. The book introduces some 17 kick-butt ways (as they call it in Business Insider) to tackle the issue of getting a better life. I haven’t read the book, only two articles about it. On the surface, the pieces of advice seem great, logical, funny and reasonable, they are the kind one needs to be reminded of every now and then.
Some examples (comments and questions in brackets are mine):
- Listen to great music (fantastic, but next, define greatness – I guess, whatever works for you)
- Don’t listen to an unhealthy doctor (how will you know?)
- Knowledge alone is not power so adopt butt-kicking action (yes!)
- Efforts, thoughts, words and actions are what will change things for you (I have always wondered if thoughts and words are enough)
- Believe in your risks (or at least take some)
- Talk to other smart people (I don’t think the author means it the way I read it: other people are smart in their own ways, not primarily because they’re heavy readers or active audio learners)
- Balance your life (yes, and only in the way you know is good for you)
- Learn to say no (Yes, it’s not going to kill you, not going to make your colleagues hate you, not going to make your friends disappear)
Then there are a few that really made me raise my eyebrows.
- Everyone is given the same list of things to deal with and what they do with that list will eventually separate the wealthy folks from the broke fools. (I’m sorry, WHAT?)
- Don’t listen to a preacher who says you’re a worthless sinner (I don’t listen to any preachers)
- The life you want often comes at a price – just like everything else (Yes, as long as we’re talking on a more abstract level of decision-making. All decisions have consequences, and the knowledge you have now was not there 10 years ago when you made that one crucial decision)
- There isn’t much time in life so don’t do the things you don’t enjoy (This can only be done to a certain degree)
- Stress comes from knowing what is right and doing what is wrong (My stress comes from many other sources, not so much from my own actions)
- If you give your family and friends a discount, they forfeit the rights to complain (How exactly does a lower price take away the right of customer and willingness of seller to discuss the quality of work?
- Be selfish with your time (Yes. But how to be selfish, when you have to read more, learn more, work more, do the things you enjoy more, listen to worthy preachers, great music and work on that list of things to deal with without ending up a broke fool?)
I should not read even the articles on self-help books, not to mention the books themselves. But then again, if it works for someone without hurting anyone else, who am I to say it’s rubbish? But fiction it is, for sure.
♠ In the meantime: I am again losing my mind over the passive-aggressive Finns (the Finnish people, not the nationalist party). Please, someone, anyone, teach us how to say thank you and please and communicate in respectful ways, without throwing our own prejudices to someone’s face (in whatever language we’re using).
♦ Song of the day: The Beatles, Happiness is a warm gun